108 Positive Affirmations to Empower Tweens

108 Positive Affirmations to Empower Tweens

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.” ~ Lao Tzu

** This post was edited March 2020 to be more inclusive — it also includes an updated, gender neutral printable affirmations list  **

Our thoughts have a lot of power.

The thoughts your children have about themselves becomes their internal talk.

Their internal talk forms their beliefs about themselves and their place in the world.

One way you can help your children learn how to harness the power of their thoughts is by teaching them how to use affirmations.

Affirmations are positive, concise statements that help you visualize and believe in the truth of what you’re declaring.

Positive affirmations offer many different benefits for kids, especially tweens, including: overcoming negative self-talk, building self-esteem and helping to build the belief that you have the power to create the life you want.

Why are positive affirmations especially important for tweens?

The tween years are the perfect time to help your child begin a practice of using positive affirmations.

The tween years are a time when children starting to be exposed to messages about how they should look and act, through the media, culture and peer pressure.

You may observe an increase in negative self-talk as your tween starts to evaluate themself with others to learn where they fit in.

With hormone changes creating all kinds of emotional shifts, learning to use positive thinking and affirmations can also be a way to help tweens ground themselves and find balance.

Here’s a list 108 positive affirmations to share with your tweens. (They also happen to be pretty great for children, teens and adults, too. 😊)

Self-esteem and confidence

1. I am strong.

2. I am confident.

3. I believe in myself.

4. I am important.

5. I am brave.

6. I am safe and secure.

7. I am awesome!

8. I am allowed to feel proud of myself.

9. I trust myself.

10. I listen to my heart.

Self-love and acceptance

11. I love myself.

12. I accept myself.

13. I am worthy.

14. I deserve to be happy.

15. I don’t need to be perfect.

16. I don’t need to be perfect to be accepted.

17. I accept my flaws.

18. I love and accept all parts of myself.

19. I forgive myself for my mistakes.

20. I think positive thoughts about myself.

21. I speak to myself with kindness.

22. It’s okay to be sad.

23. It’s okay to be angry.

24. It’s okay to be scared.

25. I am allowed to feel all of my feelings.

Kindness, compassion and gratitude

26. I am kind.

27. I am grateful.

28. I am happy with what I have.

29. I am compassionate.

30. I forgive others for their flaws.

31. I help others.

32. I include others.

33. I consider other people’s feelings.

34. I am generous.

Body Image

35. I love my body.

36. My body is perfect the way it is.

37. I don’t compare myself to others.

38. I am grateful to my body.

39. My body is strong and healthy.

40. I respect my body.

41. I am beautiful.


Family relationships

42. I love my family.

43. I accept my family.

44. I am an important part of my family.

45. I can fight with my family and still be loved.

46. I can make mistakes and still be loved.

47. I am loved.

48. I belong.


49. I am a good friend.

50. I am trustworthy.

51. I can be myself in my friendships.

52. I am allowed to be different than my friends.

53. I am allowed to have all kinds of friends.

54. I deserve to be accepted for my true self.

55. I deserve to be treated with kindness.

56. I don’t need to fit in to belong.

Reaching your goals

57. I reach my goals.

58. I can make mistakes and still reach my goals.

59. I accept help from others to achieve my goals.

60. I am always learning.

61. I work hard.

62. I am determined.

63. I believe in my abilities.

64. I enjoy being challenged.

Calming your mind

65. I am calm.

66. I am peaceful.

67. I am relaxed.

68. I am present.

69. My mind is free from worry.

70. I let go of my worries.

71. I calm my mind with my breath.

72. My whole body is relaxed.

73. My mind, body and heart are calm.

Positive Communication

74. I stand up for myself.

75. I stand up for others.

76. My voice matters.

77. My opinions matter.

78. My words have power.

79. I speak with kindness.

80. I speak with respect.

81. I respect others even when I don’t agree with them.

82. I have the courage to share my true feelings and opinions.

83. I am responsible for the words I speak.

84. I listen when others share their feelings and opinions.

Overcoming challenges

85. I overcome my challenges.

86. I peacefully resolve conflicts.

87. I find solutions to my problems.

88. I deal with anger in healthy ways.

89. I ask for help when I need it.

90. I don’t need to go through my challenges alone.

91. I am supported in overcoming obstacles.

92. I learn from my mistakes.

93. I can handle any changes that come my way.

Creativity, Imagination and Following your dreams

94. I believe in my dreams.

95. I can reach my dreams.

96. I am creative.

97. I am imaginative.

98. I go with the flow.

99. I have good ideas.

100. I am open to new ideas.

101. Anything is possible.

102. My wildest dreams can come true.

Unity and connection

103. We are all connected.

104. We are more similar than different.

105. We all have something unique to contribute.

106. We work together to solve problems.

107. We create peace.

108. We can change the world!

Tips for using positive affirmations

  • Experiment with different times to use them: when you wake up, before you go to sleep, in the shower, on the ride to school
  • Write affirmations down in different places to use as helpful reminders
  • Use the list as inspiration to create affirmations that are personal to you
  • Make sure they feel natural to you and like something you’d say
  • Repeat them a lot! Repetition is important for controlling your monkey mind!
  • Place the affirmations poster or list somewhere you’ll see every day. Choose one to focus on throughout the day to help you keep a positive mindset.

Give them something tangible

When you give your children the power of the affirmations in their hands, something they can engage with on their own, create their own meanings with, and not have to feel vulnerable to discussing big emotions until they’re ready, you give them the gift of empowerment.

This is why I created the Inner Rainbow Positive Affirmation Cards. It’s a perfect, confidence-building tool for all the children in your life- and you too!

Click the image below to check them out on my Etsy shop, along with other mindful tools, designed to create a lifestyle of mental health and happiness.

22 Responses to 108 Positive Affirmations to Empower Tweens

  1. Really helpful, I always have girl talks in the schools where my organization work here in Uganda and tomorrow I will be discussing about self esteem and confidence. Thank you

    • amazing! so glad to hear that you find it valuable. Sounds like you’re doing some wonderful work.

  2. i tried to get the list of 108 affirmations, but the link won’t work. Will you email it to me please? My girls at church need this.

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