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I know how difficult it can be to create time for self-care when you have so much going on. You have the awareness of how important self-care is and you can see the negative effects of not taking the time. But, it’s still the easiest thing to let slide for the week when you’re really busy.
Self-care is undoubtedly important. It’s also really difficult for parents to fit in. The majority of parents, especially the moms I’ve worked with, have had difficulties creating time for self-care. They experience guilt when they care for themselves, thinking there’s always something else that they should be doing instead.
I get it. I struggle with the same thing too when it comes to practicing self-care. Yet, I experience the benefits each time when I am able to be more present and patient with my daughter.
As a devoted mom, it’s natural to want to do everything you can to support your child.
Rather than feeling guilty, what would happen if you involved your daughter in the process of bringing more self-care into your life?
Here are three ideas to help:
Have a conversation with your tween girl about self-care. Explain what self-care does for you and how it helps you to bring yourself back into balance and to be a better parent. When your daughter understands the connection between you going to that yoga class or taking that breather and her not getting snapped at or nagged, she’ll ask you to go!
Choose a self-care activity that you and your daughter can do together, such as a family yoga class, an outdoor hike or a movie night. With homework, after school activities and social events, your daughter could be in need of some time for self-care too. By including your daughter in the experience, you’ll have a chance to decompress while teaching her the value of self-care for her own well being. You’ll get to spend quality time with her at the same time!
It’s easy for self-care to be the thing that’s dropped for the week. Enlist your daughter’s help and hold each other accountable for at least one self-care act each week. Together, you can collaborate on creating a simple plan for checking in with each other at the beginning of the week to ask, ‘How will you care for yourself this week?’
To help you get started, I’ve created a Self-Care Worksheet.
This free printable will help you, your tween girl and your whole family stay motivated to self-care – helping you choose a form of self-care for the week and create a flexible plan together.
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